isaacanzu

I think I understand where you’re coming from, and I think it’s about a sense of duty.

Society expects us to have duties that we fulfill, either to family, jobs, or others. Let’s make a comparison to a job.

A job gives you duties to fulfill. In return, they provide money, which allows you to support yourself and survive. In the same way, a family gives you duties to fulfill, and in return, they raise you and provide for you when you are a child.

However, even a job that pays you well can be stressful and unsatisfying. Some jobs are harmful to us. The money isn’t worth it.

The same can be true with families. I think that if your family is stressful, demanding, degrading, or harmful, the support they give you isn’t worth it.

And if the compensation isn’t worth it, then you start to shirk your duties, right? You don’t give everything you could.

I agree that an individual should take responsibility for their own life, but when people help us (or pay us), it comes with duties we must fulfill.

If you believe that you aren’t being helped enough, and they are asking too many duties of you, maybe it’s time to quit that job, or move out of that house.

Personally, I moved out of my parent’s house quite soon because my father imposed too many duties and expectations on me while providing very little. Living on my own has helped me to act in my own interests, and I’ve discovered that there are other jobs and people I would much rather give my efforts to.