Why you should get married by 25 years of age

I got married at the age of 25. At that time I thought it was a very good decision and it actually turned out to be a strangely awesome decision but for very different reasons and it was simply not what I had expected. I’ll tell you about it.

Getting married is a dream come true for some and a nightmare for others and simply a thing to do for some more. Believe me it is impossible to predict the outcome of a marriage for a little more than two days.

However crazy that sounds I still believe is that getting married at the age of 25 in 2021 is actually not bad at all and rather something to look forward to.

Let me explain why…

A teenager gets sexual awareness at the age of about 13+. The mind is bombarded with several adventures that one want to go on with his or her body. By the time person reaches about 20 years of age he or she may have experienced a interest at heart that seems life lasting (all thanks to the movies and songs). But this is also the time when a young adult becomes aware of its economic situation as well. He or she becomes aware of the expenditure and related monetary requirements. Most likely that leans towards higher education or getting into a business startup or into a job hunt. By the age of 25 a person has somewhat idea where the direction for his life is going to be in the next 5 years.

This is where the things get interesting and which in my opinion is the absolute correct time to look for a partner in marriage.

Why???????

Because here is what you get if you get married at 25. It doesn’t really matter if you are getting married to someone who you already love or if you are being arranged into a marriage. The very event of marriage is the a life changing event. There is no going back from it.

The first few years go well. You can choose to have kids early or a little late and that is okay. Then about 30 years of age when you actually come to your senses and realise what you have done you start seeing the real picture where you see the struggle to balance between will and compromise. This struggle is also accompanied by the burden of settling down in life where you need achieve a stable income source and a source to provide for the family that may or may not include your parents.

Next 30 years is where you work really hard to earn and build your foundations for the life ahead for your family. This also includes planning for your children’s future and working on your ever growing portfolio.

Now under the circumstance when you are reaching about 45, two things are bound to happen. First, a bunch of people around you will fall sick and may start dying out of illness of some other unfortunate diseases etc. Under worst circumstance you may loose a parent which is devastating. This is the point when people start dying around you, you start realising how insignificant most of the matters really are and the true meaning of life yet lies somewhere else.

Then this happens. You get hit by a heavy driver trucker called “Mid life crisis” anywhere between 40 and 45. You start believing that whatever you have learnt till now in life is just a tiny drop in the ocean of knowledge that is yet to be discovered and explore. Not to mention the health problems. Guys and girls get hit with menopause. And if you are overweight at that time then the impact is even worst.

But the best part is, since you married at the age of 25 and you have kids approaching 20s and your spouse is more or less bored of you (does not mean he or she could cheat. This is always wrong, unless it’s a consent which is also messed up… I mean you figure it out yourself). The children are ready to walk their own path. You spouse has a social circle of his or her own.

You adventure begins. Congratulations you are now stable (income wise), because you worked hard for 10 years. You have amazing kids that have a great value system because you built it in them. You have a great spouse who is comfortable with you and secured with your actions.

And you are just 45. Still young and kicking. Now you can do whatever you want or wanted to do. There is really no one to be worried about except for yourself. And you have at least 20 more years to try out the world and do what ever. I mean, dang Elon musk sent civilian crew into space yesterday or some days back. You can very well fly to moon or Mars or wherever. Start a bunch of new businesses. There are no limits to imagination.

20 years of grace time to truly do what your purpose in life has been.

What happens if you do not get married at 25 and do it say about 32 or 35 or something. The math is really simple here. Unless you found a genie in a bottle the span of things are pretty much the same for most. By the time you will get free from your responsibilities you would have lost many valuable years. Doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy them but still “A little more time“, isn’t that what we always want.

This thought process comes from a person who has been an honest, caring, law abiding family man who wants nothing but good for everyone. The opinion may change for those who act differently.

What do you think? Tell me now or forever hold your peace.

Cheers 🍻