The failure is not because you are not worthy, It’s because you are not doing what you are meant to do..!!!
realised while talking to Sir Emanshu Alavadi, friend of my awesome brother in law, Karan Keswani while having a hearty discussions over dinner at Door no.3, a fine dine restaurant.
What if there are no failures and there are just incidents that are occurring?
Maybe you’re meant to go through certain situations & whatever the decisions you make in some way or the other help you to learn about yourself.
If an incident/experience gives you an insight on something would you call it a failure? For me that is a success.
Also yes, this topic I think also might be perspectives I guess.
Hi Suechi,
I am forced to think deeply about your remark.
You are right to call them incidents. So by extension I assume that the realisation if referring to pre planned incidents that generally are bound to some form of expectation. So I think it would be safe to assume that those incidents even though occurring are still, actually called for by me, for me.
I am meant to go though certain situations you say. Hmm, who decides that? A divine plan? Sure, I feel it may be true. Since I have no facts to deny it, I cannot challenge its existence.Still can you elaborate on this with some comprehensive examples. I’d love to develop this perspective.
“An incident gives insight…” – Absolutely fair point. A beauty perspective to have.
I am not referring to any pre-panned incidents, only referring to incidents and there are no divine or spiritual stuffs involved in what I have told above.
Here is an example,
You get up in the morning, walk towards hall or some room.. while doing so you stub your toe.
This is an incident that has occurred.
You’re in pain, you feel angry that your day started off like this and you’re in bad mood.
Later down the day there might be an incident that would have occurred which would have turned out to be in your favor due to this toe stub incident.
Of course this is like some random example that I have given, but you could look for some similar examples that might have happened in your life.
Fascinating. I think I notice what you mean. Let me try to phrase it. You mean seeing anything as failure or success is futile. Because what we may consider as a failure can be a leading incident to another incident which will be judged as a “Success”. Is that what you mean?
You could say that, yes. But going deeper into it.. why would you want to see things as success or failure as well.
Why not just look it as just an experience? Something happened and it is gone.
Oh, this hits hard today. I just found out that I’m being let go of my job, and it definitely feels like a failure. But I think it was never really the thing that I truly wanted to do, the thing that I was not meant to do.
Hello Sir Isaac,
It would be a lie if I said that I understand what you are going through because I can’t. Loosing a job is definitely a setback. I reckon it’s importance given the fact you were at it already.
Forgive me for probing but I would like to understand your perspective on failure in your context. What exactly, if I may ask, are you referring to when you say “failure”?
Forced exit from an affair definitely opens doors to other opportunities and by extension I would like to ask again, what is it that you feel you are meant to do?
I understand that this question is easier asked than answered so it would be alright if you can’t answer it yet.
Yes, so like Sir Isaac mentioned, he has to let go of his job which might be a bad thing but it was in a way good for him.
I am sure he at that time might have felt bad or thought why me at this time or something but while looking into it you would get a clear picture of it.
@Suechi, a mild correction here, Sir Isaac is being let go and he did not choose to leave on his own accord. Still I am reflecting upon your perspective here. How can one achieve clarity by looking into it. Does this mean we need to think about the cause and effect of the incident or we are we need to contemplate the after effects?
Yes, I know he did not choose to leave the job on his own.
And there is no need to be too reactive on such situations if it occurs.
One has to just accept that it has happened and wait for the reason to reveal why it happened.
Like Sir Issac mentioned, he was in a job that he didn’t like so in a way it was good for him that this had happened.
Maybe he gets a job where he would do work that he likes? Have to ask him what happened after that 🙂
I see your perspective. I am eagerly looking forward to observe this happening unfold.
Has there been any incident in your life recently or in the past.. where you might have felt bad about something happening with you and later you have appreciated for it happening.