Lately I had been to Mysore to visit my cousin and got to have some chat with his dad(my Uncle lets say)
Uncle is say in his 60s and has some health issues as well as some family issues.
He is also acknowledges that the reason why he is in his current situation is because of the things he has done in his prime time.
I don't want to share the things he has shared with me here, but he feels bad for the things that have happened and I keep telling him to accept the reality and move on.
I know that it is quite hard to do it but when one starts to do this and as early as possible it will better for him.
I also had a similar thought on accepting reality few years back when one of the famous actor from our state died. There were a lot of people gathering near his place and a lot of people were crying for his death.
I was wondering why they were feeling sad/crying for him. Birth and death is normal for every living thing.
At the same time I also think that they feel sad/cry for him because of the attachment they've to him or maybe because of the good deeds he might have done or maybe because he was a good person.
I'm not sure if I would feel like crying if I lose my parents because I know that they and even I will be going to die at some point. And it would be better for a person to die if he is going through a lot of health issues or other forms of suffering.
My grandma while used to scream a lot while she was on her bed in her old days(80yrs/90yrs forgot), at first we thought she used to yell for no reason. But later we realized that she had bed-sore and we felt bad because she used to have a lot of pain and she was bed ridden.
I felt happy that she died because she doesn't have to go through the suffering anymore.
So whenever you're in a certain situation, analyze it and see what is the reality and accept it.
Because its all just mind games(I really don't know how to convey the things that's in my head).
P.S. Really sorry if this post hurt anyone's feelings.
Hello and thank you for sharing this insight of yours. There seems to be a lot to take from this share.
So whenever youâre in a certain situation, analyze it and see what is the reality and accept it.
Firstly, perspective:
This seems to me as a deep guidance. I do find it divided into two parts:
- To achieve the state of mind where I can analyse the reality of the situation in a more spontaneous manner, I believe I must train my mind to stay calm and aware at all times.
- Acceptance may or may not follow unless my mind ready to believe that nothing is as per my will. So I need to train my mind of wilful acceptance to everything that is happening around me.
What bothers me here is my reflexes and the instant reactions that I give as a response to the incident. It's true that a calm and aware mind will allow me of composed reactions and perhaps retaliation.
Iâm not sure if I would feel like crying if I lose my parents because I know that they and even I will be going to die at some point. And it would be better for a person to die if he is going through a lot of health issues or other forms of suffering.
I have gone through something similar in quite a recent time. There were moments where I thought the same, but then I was consoled by my elders of a newer perspective.
"It is not our place to play "God". As life is given to us without our will, so will also be taken. We cannot decide for others. In a situation where we are attached to a person and that person is suffering and destined for demise; our place lies in an endeavour to preserve life for as long as we can. Death will eventually take all. We cannot fight it. But when a close one is approaching the end, we must try our best to preserve life."
This is what was told to me by my elders. How much of it I concur? I'd say I had my initial denial but eventually came to an accord with mostly agreeing with them. The thing I stood ground was to not prolong the inevitable with artificial means of life support etc.
But am certain of one thing: "Its not my place to decide for others and I shall decide when others can't and how will I know when "others can't", they will tell me in some way."
I was wondering why they were feeling sad/crying for him. Birth and death is normal for every living thing.
Why wouldn't they? Isn't having and displaying emotions as natural as birth and death itself. A new born baby's first cry is supposed to exert pressure on the lungs so that they start functioning as intended. Then same cry becomes an indicated for a request for food or attention. Why not same be used to convey other emotions? Is it not "Natural" enough?
Why wouldnât they? Isnât having and displaying emotions as natural as birth and death itself. A new born babyâs first cry is supposed to exert pressure on the lungs so that they start functioning as intended. Then same cry becomes an indicated for a request for food or attention. Why not same be used to convey other emotions? Is it not âNaturalâ enough?
It is natural i'm not denying it, I just wonder at times thats all and I just stop thinking about these things when it happens because it takes us into bigger loops which I dont want to get into.
It is natural iâm not denying it, I just wonder at times thats all and I just stop thinking about these things when it happens because it takes us into bigger loops which I dont want to get into.
True, I need to train my myself about strengthening my mind to lesser impact of such situations. Sometimes things do not have, how do you say, desirable outcomes.
One thing that I do is I see things in their fundamental or simple form. Makes living easier.
One thing that I do is I see things in their fundamental or simple form. Makes living easier.
Please elaborate on this! Would be nice to have a hypothetical example.
When you get to a peak stressed out level there would be a moment you would say 'Aaah <starwords> it' and yolo. At that time you wouldn't care about anything else apart from yourself and will take up decisions which you struggled to do earlier.
Ever been in such situation?
Ever been in such situation?
It's strange that I cannot think of a situation in real life where I...wait. I remember. It happened in the company of my dearest friends on our trips where I am absolutely certain that my friends got my back and then I YOLOed it.
So yes, I have a few instances of the sorts in my mind. How do you relate to them?
So when you are in that YOLO state, you dont care about what happens or what others might think of you etc.. You try to live that way.
So when you are in that YOLO state, you dont care about what happens or what others might think of you etc.. You try to live that way.
Fascinating. How do I find the motivation like that without the presence of friends? How do I perpetuate the hand of confidence on my back?
You don't have to, just be and it will happen đ
Hmmm 🤔...
I cant say I fully understand this. To my mind it seems there are several variables at play. Just to "Be" seems hard to achieve.
When you sleep, doesnt the body take care of itself? Just like that đ
Which part you want me to explain? The body taking care of itself when you're asleep?
